The opposite of being Happy is not Sad, its Apathy. Many people don't understand why they remain unhappy in pending/current relationships because they don't take the time to evaluate this fact. To do this I have plotted out a simple way to see what type of Qualities you should be looking for in another; so you can not be sad, or numb… but be Happy with someone.
Complement: to enhance a quality to make complete.
Supplement: to fill a deficiency to make whole, or Perfect.
The deficient part of the white is Supplemented by the black and vice versa while the red Complements the same areas enhancing the abundant portion.
Now while these two sound very similar there is definitely a fine line that makes all the difference in the world between you feeling fulfilled, and you feeling bitter and empty. The first mistake you may have made is not knowing yourself enough to know what you want vs. need in a relationship, Most people only selfishly pay attention to the former. You should not be diving blindly into and relinquishing control of your heart to different people on a whim, Make sure they are even worth your time. To do this you must know your Good and Bad qualities to determine first what you NEED from another person, for them to Complement, or increase the potency of that quality; or Supplement, fill the remaining void you are deficient in that instance.
If you know you are typically frantic in situations, would you want someone like you who complements that, joining in your excitedness making you more frantic? Or someone on the opposite spectrum who Supplements the clear-headedness and Patience you are missing to be able to Calm you down?
If you know you are personally strong willed, hard working and determined for success, do you want someone who will complement that by challenging you, positively, to be better than you are? Or someone who Supplements by being lackluster and uninspired so that you feel more important as caretaker?
Believe it or not these may sound like obvious answers but they aren't. Some people like when everyone is as overly excited as themselves because it registers as engaging and there are PLENTY of people that date people they feel are "safe" out of fear of being left or because it makes sense Logically. The important part is to know who you are so that you can make the right choice BEFORE you get in too far with someone emotionally. If you take a little time every week and be real with yourself, write down a quality you've noticed you have and decide whether its Good or Bad for you, then you can determine the Qualities the Yin to your Yang will need to have to make your union complete. Keep in mind, It’s much easier to find what you seek if you know what you're actually looking for.
