Relationship Advice from someone Single? Nah...

I mean honestly, how the hell can someone who doesn't have a boyfriend/girlfriend possibly give any relevant advice to be taken seriously? I mean if you're not in the situation you can't provide intelligent input right? That's why only sick Doctors can help patients, that's why they only allow female Plastic Surgeons to give Breast Implants, that's why rich folk never listen to their financial advisers or accountants because how could they possible give them good advisement if they themselves aren't as rich as their employers, right? 

If you haven't noticed by now I'm implying you are stupid by using sarcasm. The validity of someone's advice should have all to do with the content of their advice, not the assumed position you think they are in. Good Advice is good advice no matter who gives it so don't ignore something just because your ego is too inflated to evaluate without bias, that's a mental handicap on your part. There are many people are single because they are strong enough maintain their standards instead of settling for someone beneath their requirements for the simple sake of saying "I got me a Him/Her." And furthermore, the people who made mistakes, that they learned from, will probably be able to give far better input to those in general situations then someone who has never done so. I mean how smart and quick on your feet do you have to be if you've never had anything go wrong or you've been in a long standing arranged marriage, Hmm? Keep in mind... On the road to success in whatever endeavor, Finances, Relationships, Parenting etc, its best not only to listen to those who made it with no issues, but seek those who hit potholes so that you can make attempts to avoid them or learn to bounce back. Make Sense? 

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48 Laws of Power Explained: #18 Solo Dolo

"Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself, Isolation is Dangerous."

Man, where do I start with this one? Do you even see the implications not only physically but emotionally? How often do you see, or maybe even do yourself, that when you get hurt in a relationship with a lover you immediately go to the IDGAF attitude? That is really the weakest thing for you to but you, at that moment, swear you are most in control. But have you ever noticed the people who employ this method are always the ones perpetually hurt by others and unhappy? Can't be a coincidence.

Don't isolate yourself so much from pain out of fear that you are willing to cut off all Happiness and possible personal progressive opportunities to do so, that is NOT Power.

What other areas do you think isolation leads to a snowball effect of eventual self destruction?

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48 Laws of Power Explained

I've been reading, well studying these guidelines to power written by Robert Greene in 1998, It's pretty impressive. At first I thought it was some random collection of common sense google tweets someone turned into book but it is far more in depth than I'd imagined.

Oddly enough, not to sound conceited, but many of the things I read so far in the book are things I naturally do but never really took time to notice why I do them, or why they work so seeing them laid out and explained gave me a lot of insight as to why I succeed in the areas where I do and am seen as a leader and somewhat intimidating to others even upon first meeting.

I'm gonna be posting some random laws I find notable to events I see or experience depending on the days they happen so stay tuned and you might find out some stuff to help you understand or even reform your actions to gain more power in your everyday life. Won't give you all the secrets though, you gotta read for yourself for all that... (That's Laws.. Nah, can't give yall too much too quick) Stay Tune, first post in 30minutes; Law 18: Isolation is Dangerous.

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The Truth in a Joke…

 

 

“Oh man…. I’m just playin…” How many times have we said this after saying exactly what we meant and upon seeing the other party get offended/hurt use the phrase to quickly diffuse the situation? Often huh?

 

No matter how many frightened to be themselves people will tell you, the jokes you make tell A LOT about who you are as a person. The very way you formulate was is humorous to you speaks to your mental state and, more than likely, past experiences. I mean honestly, how funny are jokes that have no factual/logical basis to them? Don’t you joke best with friends or people you know more about? Why is that?

 

Joking is also a subtle way for people to show themselves in a manner they feel more comfortable letting out rather than being completely open and vulnerable in a serious setting. Pay more attention to what people say and how they say it when trying to be humorous and you’ll start realizing more about them as a person then you ever would have coming out and asking them directly.

 

So make sure the next time you get that “LOL'” after a statement from a “friend”, to evaluate the words before it and see how the people you consult with really think.

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The Complement vs. Supplement Guide to Dating

The opposite of being Happy is not Sad, its Apathy. Many people don't understand why they remain unhappy in pending/current relationships because they don't take the time to evaluate this fact. To do this I have plotted out a simple way to see what type of Qualities you should be looking for in another; so you can not be sad, or numb… but be Happy with someone. 

 

Complement: to enhance a quality to make complete.

Supplement: to fill a deficiency to make whole, or Perfect.

 

The deficient part of the white is Supplemented by the black and vice versa while the red Complements the same areas enhancing the abundant portion.

 

Now while these two sound very similar there is definitely a fine line that makes all the difference in the world between you feeling fulfilled, and you feeling bitter and empty. The first mistake you may have made is not knowing yourself enough to know what you want vs. need in a relationship, Most people only selfishly pay attention to the former. You should not be diving blindly into and relinquishing control of your heart to different people on a whim, Make sure they are even worth your time. To do this you must know your Good and Bad qualities to determine first what you NEED from another person, for them to Complement, or increase the potency of that quality; or Supplement, fill the remaining void you are deficient in that instance.

 

If you know you are typically frantic in situations, would you want someone like you who complements that, joining in your excitedness making you more frantic? Or someone on the opposite spectrum who Supplements the clear-headedness and Patience you are missing to be able to Calm you down?

 

If you know you are personally strong willed, hard working and determined for success, do you want someone who will complement that by challenging you, positively, to be better than you are? Or someone who Supplements by being lackluster and uninspired so that you feel more important as caretaker?

 

Believe it or not these may sound like obvious answers but they aren't. Some people like when everyone is as overly excited as themselves because it registers as engaging and there are PLENTY of people that date people they feel are "safe" out of fear of being left or because it makes sense Logically. The important part is to know who you are so that you can make the right choice BEFORE you get in too far with someone emotionally. If you take a little time every week and be real with yourself, write down a quality you've noticed you have and decide whether its Good or Bad for you, then you can determine the Qualities the Yin to your Yang will need to have to make your union complete. Keep in mind, It’s much easier to find what you seek if you know what you're actually looking for.

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Searching for Mr/Mrs Perfect

 

 

Awww How sweet. But with all due respect, are you effin Stupid? Now I'm all for wanting the best but most people I see claiming they waiting for the perfect person tend to sound lazy as a mofo and their exact opposite. Tell me if you've heard something similar:

 

“I want someone who will do this that and the third for me, have his/her life together and accept me for who I am.

1) That's Bull, you got a list of stuff you want a Lover to do for you but want them to just accept you for what you are? Incorrect Sir/Madame... You want a Gigapet.

 

2) You want someone with their Life together? And what does that entail exactly? Job, Place of their Own, Bills Paid on Time, decent Wardrobe... while you collect unemployment, Live with Parents and/or are completely dependent on Gov't Assistance to make ends meet?

How does that make sense in your mind?

The answer...Selfishness. Too often I see people wanting in a Lover everything they aren't and then they get confused as to way they find the lower caliber of people they do. But it seems pretty simple to me, if you want the perfect catch, you gotta use the right bait. Flaunting your Sexual Skills/Body Parts (women) and Cash (dudes) may get you A Lover, but not THE Lover you've been craving. Now I'm not saying you aren't deserving of your counterpart... but if you are Black and White TV quality, don't stand in line to Pre-Order the newest Playstation. You're wasting time and effort for something that can do much better without you.

 

Think About It: Would the "Perfect" Man or Woman of your dreams settle for a Person like You?

 

Step Yo Game Up... ASAP!!!

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