The age old question between the genders... "Why is It Ok for a Man to sleep around but when a woman does it, she's a Hoe?" Well the simple answer is, They’re both Hoes. But I'm sure you want a more definitive answer so I have broken in down into the three main reasons why one is more readily accepted as "Normal" amongst the masses. I am in no way saying I agree that it should be this way, I'm simply saying these are observations I have made since everyone asks the question but doesn't provide the answer. Let's answer the proverbial rhetorical question.
Part 1…
If you want to follow this Logic the first thing you must say aloud is "I want to be a Hoe too." If that makes you uncomfortable then you need to reevaluate if this line of thought is really in your best interest.
The term "Hoe" is reserved for ANY PERSON with Superficial means of choosing Sexual Partners, Male or Female. So when you choose to give yourself sexually (Penetration, Foreplay and/or Oral) to someone based solely off a Physical Attraction, Horniness, Financial Gain or Social Approval then yes, you are being a Hoe. This does not matter if you've slept with 65 people or 2, a Hoe is a Hoe beginning at the decision phase... the sexual partner number just denotes severity. Surely the majority of us have probably had our "Hoe Moments" in a time of pure Lust, but when you try to use the Justification "I'm not a Hoe, I'm just acting like a Man" then you are clearly in denial and can't deal with the real consequences of your actions. If you were born a woman, act like it. If you want to be a Hoe too, that's fine, just don't be mad when you are labeled as such.
Part 2…
This will probably be the hardest for women to digest but keep in mind I'm speaking in a general sense so it is not 100%, but definitely a Majority. Sex means more to Women then Men (at least in beginning stages). Don't believe me? Imagine the scenario:
An average, well physical/emotionally adjusted man and woman having consistent communication, friendship and sexual relations... Which of the two is more likely to "catch feelings" and develop a stronger emotion for the other then express it first with a want/need for monogamy?
(At this point if you may have started by saying "Well it depends..." which means you already had an answer (Woman) and are coming up with scenarios in which it would go against the norm... Point Proven)
Call it stereotypical, maybe even misogynistic if your being overly dramatic, but saying it's false for the general public on a grand scale is flat out unrealistic. I don't know if its natural or if our Patriarchal society makes us this way but continued sexual and mental connection builds stronger emotions faster in women than in men (generally). Women will give more of themselves during sex which sometimes binds itself with other emotions that are not controllable, i.e. Love, or simulated feeling thereof. Typically, Men need to be persuaded into seeing it as more than just sex, Women have to remind/distance themselves that its not.
Part 3…
This may be a little controversial but keep in mind it sickens me too... But in all actuality, the woman is the only person that HAS to deal with Pregnancy.
Getting Pregnant during sex is something that SHOULD be a decision between a man and a woman that will do their best to raise a child in this world, but let's be real with ourselves this is not always the case. Being an optimist I would like to believe that the amount of men that would get a woman Pregnant and then abandon her are slim to none, but I know they are definitely higher than the amount of women who abandon the baby with the father. Now both parents can choose abortion, day after pill etc., so that's equal. But during Pregnancy, a jerk of a "man" can decide to leave while a woman cannot. That's a choice "men" have, albeit sick and demented, its still a choice that women don't. I'm not speaking on it as a positive in any way, shape or form, but its true. Another Scenario:
Woman and man at club, both out of towners, have a one Night stand without exchanging numbers, names or any sort of contact info (not even Twitter Follow for Follows). They used condoms but still 1 month later the lady finds out she is Pregnant, its his but for whatever reason she is completely against abortion and decides to keep the baby. Is the man being less than Honorable for not being in the decision process in this instance?
Not At All, he doesn't even know about the kid. But from one Hoe decision, between a male hoe and a female hoe, who will have a substantial Physical, Emotional and Financial consequence because of it? The Woman, there's no Opinion here, Just fact. Now you can say she has other options, which is true, but the point is SHE has to do it, not Him. Men & Women can be placed on child support, Men & Women can get STDs, Men & Women can get suffer Heartbreak of thinking sex was more than just sex, but only Women get pregnant. So even if BOTH people involved decide to avoid all responsibility, the Woman CAN'T. Facts are Facts, Women have a lot more at stake from Hoe Decisions.
Whether you like what I've laid out or not from an unbiased standpoint its Factually Correct on at least 1, which is the most important, of 3 basis's (Pregnancy) and generally/socially accepted on the remaining 2 of 3. I'm not saying this Justifies men being Hoes, I'm saying don't mimic someone's actions when you have a lot more to Lose from performing such actions, its just not smart. Take pride in being what you are, Hoe or not, and find you a man whose standards match yours. Cool?
